We’re all familiar with people attributing to others their own faults, like the old adage of the pot calling the kettle black. Freud called this “projection.” As a psychiatrist, I have found that nobody has described this phenomenon in richer words than did Jesus when he warned his followers that the “speck in your neighbor’s eye” could actually be “the log in your own eye.”
Those who spot flaws in their neighbors trust their conscious mind like they do their vision. They think that what they see is reality.
People trust how they see others, particularly the faults they find. This is a remarkably frequent occurrence since we’re all surrounded by imperfect people. Note that Jesus didn’t say a person couldn’t spot his neighbor’s flaws, but such a person’s mind tends to find faults in others that are similar to his/her own. In other words, imperfect people have a need to locate their faults in others.
All of us have had a number of “log in the eye” experiences with others. Let’s say your friend begins complaining to you about the faults of a person you both know, listing one incident after another. As you listen, you want to say, “Hey, are we talking about our friend or are we talking about you?”
Basically, your friend is in massive denial about his own condition. He is actually using stories about the other person to communicate to you about himself. This is a typical “log in the eye” experience. Caught in the deep weeds of denial, your friend’s unconscious mind, in the blink of an eye, has registered his condition and is blurting out the information it has gathered via stories about someone else. I call this “blink and blurt.”
Your friend is secretly trying to come to terms with himself while remaining in denial. It’s too much honesty for him to handle. He can’t own up to who he is.
But note that he gets around his denial by the stories he tells about others, all the while holding up the correction which he should make. Read the implication: “My neighbor should behave in this way instead of that.” Secretly, this is his deeper moral compass in action.
Even though Freud recognized that people “project” their faults onto others, he had no real grasp that people’s unconscious minds constantly analyze their situations in a “flash” and then communicate what they find by using stories about others.
Malcolm Gladwell, in his 2005 best seller, Blink, discussed this phenomenal quick-read ability of what he called the new “dazzling adaptive unconscious.” Yet Gladwell, like Freud, never recognized that the “see-all” quick-read unconscious that works in the “blink” of an eye was also the “tell-all” mind— that our unconscious mind must share, or “blurt” out, what it knows about us in the form of stories. Our unconscious mind possesses a kind of super intelligence far beyond our wildest dreams, far quicker than our conscious mind. This super intelligence is more than “dazzling.” The unconscious mind is a story teller par excellence and can brilliantly pick up on our deepest motives, analyzing a situation in shocking depth.
It always tells the truth and shows us the correction we should make. Our super intelligence possesses a deeper, wiser moral compass.
Let me take it a step further. Imagine what we could understand about our leaders if we listen to their stories with greater awareness of the super intelligence. Our media pundits resist delving into the deeper motives of the people they cover. It’s clear they think it’s not politically correct to discuss deeper motives. To be honest, I don’t believe they fully know how to understand deeper motives and they are uninformed that the super intelligence even exists (with its wiser moral compass). They don’t recognize that people, especially leaders, who suffer from “log in the eye” denial are secretly judging themselves. These people often communicate unconsciously their need to be held accountable.
I am a psychiatrist. I have years of experience listening to my patients, trying to understand them on a level deeper. I believe that our super intelligence understands us better than anyone. This is one of the most important discoveries we have ever made about the human mind.
Here’s one problem I want to address. Our nation desperately needs to understand President Barack Obama on a deeper level. Our media is ill-equipped to achieve this task.
Obama is frequently communicating to the American people via a “log in the eye” fashion, revealing his deepest motives, especially when he criticizes others.
If he had noble, good intentions for our nation, then I would feel no reason to write.
Yet his super intelligence has been active, and it has revealed his motives to be too destructive for America. He is secretly telling us what to do about it.
I have listened to Mr. Obama for a while now, and I am ready to share with you what I have found.
If we keep the basic “log in the eye” model in mind, with its deeper moral compass, we will understand Obama in an entirely new light. And later the main stream media who supports him.